Counselors lie in court and face charges

Friday, December 19, 2008

The attorney for two Lufkin counselors indicted for lying under oath during a child custody case compared the grand jury charges to a bologna sandwich on Thursday.

"There's an old saying that a district attorney could have a grand jury indict a bologna sandwich," said defense attorney John W. Tunnell. "This case is a bologna sandwich."

Tunnell's clients Mark Sutton and Juanda Morgan, who are married to each other and have a counseling practice together, have both been indicted for aggravated perjury. An Angelina County grand jury handed down two counts of the charges against Sutton and five counts against Morgan.

Angelina County District Attorney Clyde Herrington was not available for comment Thursday, although he usually does not comment on cases that are currently under investigation.

Sutton testified in a child custody case earlier this year that the father of the children involved had raised his voice "in a very loud and harassing manner" during the course of a counseling session, according to an indictment handed down by a grand jury Tuesday. Morgan testified that during her counseling session with the father "he began to yell very loudly at me," the report stated. Sutton and Morgan also said under oath they would characterize the father's type of behavior as consistent with a person who has rage, the report stated.

A tape recording of the session, reviewed and investigated by a Texas Ranger, revealed "such statement as being false," the report stated.

Morgan responded to a request for comment made Wednesday in a phone message left Thursday morning. She said she and her husband would not be avoiding comment on the case.

"This is a story that really affects the entire mental health counseling community here in Lufkin, in my opinion," she said. "Even though it looks like my specific problem at the moment, I think it indicates what a lot of mental health professionals are up against when occasionally a parent expects you to be a hired gun on the stand rather than a mental health professional."

The indictment issued Tuesday is not expected to affect the custody court case, which has already been resolved. The father did get custody rights to the children.

The counselers lies but yet it won't affect the custody case, Why, it should? Just goes to show what Father don't matter, and only seen as ATM's 


LAWS OF EVE - Application for maintenance of children

Tuesday, October 7, 2008

In a recent Supreme Court decision (PEC v DRC) which was delivered on April 4, the judge was asked to consider an application by a mother for increased contribution towards maintenance by the father of the couple's eight-year-old child. Three issues were considered by the judge:

1. What amounts to reasonable expense in respect of an eight- year-old child?

Whenever the court considers a maintenance application on behalf of a child, there is an attempt to identify what sums are incurred exclusively for the child's benefit. Therefore, expenses such as rent, mortgage, cost of hiring a helper and utilities are usually apportioned between the child and the other person or persons who share that home with him or her.

In the case of DRC's application, the judge was of the view that an allocation of half of the mortgage and the utilities to an eight-year- old was unreasonable. Instead, the judge concluded that a third or a quarter of those expenses was exclusively incurred for the child's benefit.

2. If an application for maintenance is made pursuant to the Children (Guardianship and Custody) Act, does the court have to consider the applicant's means?

There are alternative statutes under which applications for maintenance may be made. One such statute is the Children (Guardianship and Custody) Act, which speaks only to the examination of the father's means by the court. In some other statutes, such as the Maintenance Act, the court is directed to consider the means of both parents.

In the case of PEC v DRC, the application was made by the mother and her attorney-at-law argued that she did not need to provide information regarding her income, because the court only needed to consider the father's means. However, the court did not find favour with that argument and ruled that both the means of the father and the mother should be considered.

3. If an application for maintenance is made pursuant to the Children (Guardianship and Custody) Act, can the court have regard to the provisions of the Maintenance Act?

The judge was of the view that because the court was concerned to ensure the best interests of the child, he was not constrained to confine his considerations to the statute under which the application was made. He stated that, "the court should not be hampered by procedural trappings, but should approach its task with practicality". Therefore, the judge ruled that the principles outlined in the Maintenance Act, which indicate that there is equal obligation for parents to maintain a child, remained applicable.


DV, father runs with child makes the papers

Thursday, September 4, 2008

Authorities activated “A Child is Missing” call system and searched vacant homes in the area. Bowlen was found in the attic of a home in the 1200 block of North Sixth Street, holding the child, Holland said.

read more here
Yet when the mother run off with the children, unless the father as legal custody the police don't activated a child missing call, or amber alert proof that in society on the mother have rights and the only rights fathers have it to pay Child Support


At mothers request father is left out in Obituary

Lasalle, Illinois -- What happens after your only son dies suddenly? One father finds out that not only is he cut out of the obituary, but also on the death certificate.

In Lasalle, Illinois, George Harmon is grieving the loss of his only son., Kristopher. Kristopher Harmon died from an accidental gunshot wound while cleaning his gun on Friday, August 22 in his home in Council Bluff, Iowa.

Harmon received a call around 8:30 p.m that night from his daughter-in-law Ginger Harmon. "I was devastated, when she called I kept thinking that it was a joke. It could not have happened to my son." states Harmon. The following day was a blur, Harmon made calls to his family and kept in touch with Kristopher's widow, in order to have information on what happened and what the services were going to be. "Everything was a blur, I was numb, I just wanted it all to be a mistake."

Sunday brought more grief, when Harmon received one final call from Ginger regarding the obituary that was published in the August 24th Council Bluffs Non Pariel newspaper. "The call was to warn me that I was not mentioned in the obit, I was never mentioned as the father. Another man was." Apparently a man by the name of Keith Hadfield of Omaha, Nebraska was mentioned as the surviving father.

Upon finding this out and trying to contact the paper to no avail, he contacted the Cuttler-O'Neill-Meyer-Woodring Funeral Home also located in Council Bluffs, Iowa to find out who had wrote the obituary. "I was directed to the director, and he stated that he had wrote the obituary at the request of Kristopher Harmon's wife and mother Renee Lewis. The director was very apologetic but had stated that he can not change the information per that request, and that it did concern him that Keith Hadfield was named Kristopher's father on the death certificate."

Now it would seem that fathers don't have the right to mention in their kids Obituary all at the request of the mother. Where will this injustice end.

Read more here.


FW: [Against_Child_Support] Digest Number 244

Friday, May 23, 2008






ALL DAY EVENTS BOTH DAYS - 8am to 4pm or later






Please respond if you plan to attend to give an idea of turnout, or to give ideas in general. All individuals and groups who support equal parenthood are welcome.


It's your Capitol and your U.S. Constitution that's being violated. Let The Congress know we need federal legislation for enforcement of childrens' and parents' rights, as much or more than we need a federal bureaucracy for child "support" enforcement! !!


If you can't make it, you can submit your speech: 1) preferably video recorded in front of your state capitol or local courthouse, or 2) in written form by email. We will try to read submitted speeches Fathers Day week-end, time permitting. Otherwise we can post them on the Internet.


Last year we had some excellent speeches but we need MORE OF THEM. For last years speeches go to




The Declaration of Independence was a list of grievances submitted to King George of England. If we do not speak out, CONTINUOUSLY, we are submitting to tyrrany.


If you are unable to attend in D.C., or if you can do both, consider demonstrating IN YOUR STATE on FRIDAY 13TH at the


National Fatherless Day Rally


see their website for details


For more information please contact:

David Wilson





Mark Young




A tribute

Wednesday, May 14, 2008


Daddy's Little Girl


Fathers 'powerless against vengeful mothers'

Monday, May 12, 2008

Decent fathers are left powerless to see their estranged children if vengeful mothers are determined to prevent access, a senior judge has admitted.

Lord Justice Ward attacked child access law after presiding over a case that saw a “vicious” mother falsely accuse her ex-husband of sexually abusing their child.

He spoke out after telling the father that there was nothing he could do to help him re-establish contact with his daughter after his ex-wife turned her against him.

The man’s 14-year-old daughter, who cannot been identified, had been influenced by a “drip, drip, drip of venom” from his ex-wife, who wanted to deny him his paternal rights.

Lord Justice Ward said the case was bordering on the scandalous but the court was compelled to act in the interests of the child.

Because of her mother’s “viciously corrupting” influence, it would cause the teenager too much distress if she spent time with her father, he said.

In London’s Civil Appeal Court, Lord Justice Ward said: “The father complains bitterly, passionately, and with every justification, that the law is sterile, impotent and utterly useless.

”But the question is 'what can this court do?’ The answer is nothing.”

The parents were briefly married in the 1990s and their daughter was a baby when they parted.

Lord Justice Ward said it was “impossible” that the girl could remember being abused and it was obvious it was something she had been told and believed.

In 1997 a judge ruled that allegations of sexual abuse were “wholly unfounded”.

The malignant influence of the mother, who lives in the Lincoln area, came to a head when the girl wrote to her father when she was nine.

The letter read: “This is what I really think about you. I hate you and you frighten me. You made my life miserable and stressful. I wish you would die. Leave me alone.”

In 2004 the father went to Lincoln County Court in an attempt to gain access. He was allowed to see her, but only under the supervision of a priest.

The contact was an unhappy experience for the daughter and the arrangement ceased. At a later court hearing, the father virtually admitted that further meetings would distress her.

At the Court of Appeal, Lord Justice Ward refused the father permission to appeal his decision. The father is considering taking a case to the European Court of Human Rights.


Very Intersting Blog

Tuesday, May 6, 2008

I have been reading a new blog about a father's fight in Kentucky Supreme Court, It's a very moving and trying story. Click here to visit his Blog

so What don't you stop by and read, lean support and comments and messages of hope for this father.

On a personal note, about his case, though he might have lost his case, I would have to wonder if the mother of his child and her husband was to divorce, just who would they go after for Child Support.


Gay sperm donor denied son access

Wednesday, April 23, 2008

Civil liberties groups demanded radical reform of family law after a gay man, who donated sperm to a lesbian couple, was refused rights to his biological son.

Dublin's High Court ruled that the man, who had been friends with the women, should have no guardianship or access to the child and the toddler would be better off with the couple. The landmark ruling is the latest case to expose serious gaps in family law, fathers' rights and a lack of legislation on same-sex couples.

The Unmarried and Separated Fathers of Ireland warned the decision could end up being a major setback for fathers' rights. Legal spokesman Donnacha Murphy said: "Legislation may further the issue of inequality in Irish family life. The only way to achieve ultimate equality is by an amendment to the constitution."

How much would you like to bet if the those mommy need more money they will hit him up for child support and win.


Daddy's Little Girl Poem

I found another clip, of the video Daddy i miss you, this one is call Daddy's little girl poem

I have download it too, just in case youtube delete this one too.

Her hair was up in a ponytail, her favorite dress tied with a bow.
Today was Daddy's Day at school, and she couldn't wait to go.
But her mommy tried to tell her, that she probably should stay home.
Why the kids might not understand, if she went to school alone.
But she was not afraid; she knew just what to say.
What to tell her classmates of why he wasn't there today.
But still her mother worried, for her to face this day alone.
And that was why once again, she tried to keep her daughter home.
But the little girl went to school, eager to tell them all.
About a dad she never sees a dad who never calls.
There were daddies along the wall in back, for everyone to meet.
Children squirming impatiently, anxious in their seats.
One by one the teacher called, a student from the class.
To introduce their daddy, as seconds slowly passed.
At last the teacher called her name, every child turned to stare.
Each of them was searching, for a man who wasn't there.
"Where's her daddy at?" she heard a boy call out.
"She probably doesn't have one," another student dared to shout.
And from somewhere near the back, she heard a daddy say,
"Looks like another deadbeat dad, too busy to waste his day."
The words did not offend her, as she smiled up at her Mom.
And looked back at her teacher, who told her to go on.
And with hands behind her back, slowly she began to speak.
And out from the mouth of a child, came words incredibly unique.
"My Daddy couldn't be here, because he lives so far away.
But I know he wishes he could be, since this is such a special day.
And though you cannot meet him, I wanted you to know.
All about my daddy, and how much he loves me so.
He loved to tell me stories he taught me to ride my bike.
He surprised me with pink roses, and taught me to fly a kite.
We used to share fudge sundaes, and ice cream in a cone.
And though you cannot see him, I'm not standing here alone.
"Cause my daddy's always with me, even though we are apart
I know because he told me, he'll forever be in my heart"
With that, her little hand reached up, and lay across her chest.
Feeling her own heartbeat, beneath her favorite dress.
And from somewhere in the crowd of dads, mother stood in tears.
Proudly watching her daughter, who was wise beyond her years.
For she stood up for the love of a man not in her life.
Doing what was best for her, doing what was right.
And when she dropped her hand back down, staring straight into the crowd.
She finished with a voice so soft, but its message clear and loud.
"I love my daddy very much, he's my shining star.
And if he could, he'd be here, but heaven's just too far
You see he was a fireman and died just this past year
When airplanes hit the towers and taught Americans to fear.
But sometimes when I close my eyes, it's like he never went away."
And then she closed her eyes, and saw him there that day.
And to her mother's amazement, she witnessed with surprise.
A room full of daddies and children, all starting to close their eyes.
Who knows what they saw before them, who knows what they felt inside.
Perhaps for merely a second, they saw him at her side.
"I know you're with me Daddy," to the silence she called out.
And what happened next made believers, of those once filled with doubt.
Not one in that room could explain it, for each of their eyes had been closed.
But there on the desk beside her, was a fragrant long-stemmed pink rose.
And a child was blessed, if only for a moment, by the love of her shining bright star.
And given the gift of believing, that heaven is never too far.


NEW DADDY, Anti-dad video...

Monday, April 21, 2008

AS if we don't have enough problems to wonder about as fathers, now this jackass actually sing to kids telling then how to get a new Daddy


A little girls story - ilove you daddy

Saturday, April 5, 2008

Update this video has been removed by youtube, they claim right to use violation, yet there are at leat 15 others just like still on youtube.

I like it becuase it was done as a show and tell or bring your dad to school day. Also where it was said in the video by one dad that her dad must have been a deadbeat.

Also if one downloaded it youtube could you please send me a copy. Thanks
this one might make a few cry.


Father's Love Letter


Dear Mr Jesus

, note that it said they took her mommy and daddy away, then later it said don't tell daddy but mommy hits me too.

Yet every DV shelter and worker claims its always the father.

the lyrics

Dear Mr. Jesus, I just had to write to you

Something really scared me, when I saw it on the news

A story 'bout a little girl beaten black and blue

Jesus, thought I'd take this right to you

Dear Mr. Jesus, I don't understand

Why they took her mom and dad away

I know that they don't mean to hit with wild and angry hands

Tell them just how big they are I pray

Please don't let them hurt your children

We need love and shelter from the storm

Please don't let them hurt your children

Won't you keep us safe and warm

Dear Mr. Jesus, they say that she may die

Oh I hope the doctors stop the pain

I know that you could save her and take her up to the sky

So she would never have to hurt again

Please don't let them hurt your children..

Dear Mr. Jesus, please tell me what to do

And please don't tell my daddy

But my mommy hits me, too.

Please don't let them hurt your children...


Don Mathis from Sherman, Texas had this to say

Thursday, April 3, 2008

I read an article titled "Women in New York prisons seek better child custody protections," but the article left me with more questions than answers.

Why are these advocates more concerned about women in prison than the children they leave behind? Children normally have a mother and a father. Shouldn't these advocates be trying to ensure that a decent loving dad should have a chance at raising the child instead of a criminal mother?

Serena Alfieri, Women in Prison project coordinator, said when mothers get to interact with their children in prison it provides an incentive for rehabilitation and decreases the chance for recidivism upon release. This is true -- but there are far more fathers in prison than mothers. Wouldn't the same hold true for the imprisoned dad?

Most people in prison, men and women, were raised in a home without a father present. With statistics like this, wouldn't it be more important to connect children with their dads?


Court gives fugitive mother custody

A landmark child custody ruling has left a Czech mother relieved to be allowed to keep her son in the country, and an American father planning an appeal to have the child returned to him in the United States.

On Feb. 25, Prague 5 District Court decided that Czech citizen Veronika Horváthová, who had kidnapped her 4-year-old son Adrian from his father, California resident Pablo Santana, would be given full custody. This is the first time in Czech history that the Child Abduction Section of the Hague Convention has been used to grant custody to a parent who has kidnapped a child.

read more here.

If a father had done this the other Country would return the Child ASP back to the mother in USA. Its seem to me that in everyone of these case the mother always claim abuse by the father to keep the child with her and to justify her actions.


Showdown looming over controversial theory

Monday, March 31, 2008

Karen Franklin, Ph.D.Parental Alienation Syndrome is by far the most controversial theory in high-conflict child custody litigation. And the battle lines are drawn primarily by gender: PAS is apt to be the first line of defense when a husband is accused in a custody battle of sexually abusing his children. That is, provided he has the money to hire a high-powered attorney.

Under the theory, one parent - almost always the mother - is accused of turning the children against the other, and brainwashing them to believe they have been abused even when they have not been.

Click here to read more

PAS in any form is wrong. It does exist no matter that its not accept by APA. I still feel that we should leave off the word Syndrome, and replace it with the word action. That way we leave the APA out of it. Since their main goal it to sell drugs, if a bill was made to stop this then it would be approve by the APA ASAP.


Child support Corruption

Friday, March 28, 2008


CSA - Child Support Agency Admit a mistake

And you think you have problems with child this man really had problems


From Yourtube


There are many reasons why a mother should want the children to hate the father.

Wednesday, March 26, 2008

I found this list at this site, which will be add to my list soon. After reading the list, ask yourself how many does these apply in your case.

1. The mother wants to start a new life and wants the father out of the way. She may be more successful than he is. He is seen as an encumbrance.
2. The mother wants money/property from the father and uses the children as bargaining pawns.
3. The mother hates the father and uses the children as weapons.
4. The mother is possessive and wants all the childrens love.
5. The mother is jealous of the love/gifts the father gives the child but not to her.
6. The mother cannot cope with her own life. Contact with the father in any form is difficult for her. It is a common statement by fathers that the mother suffers from depression. Sometimes PMT, when rows are likely to flare up over minor incidents, and lead to greater hostility.
7. Disappointment. She feels he is unworthy to be a father and doesn’t deserve the children.
8. The mother is egged on by other women hostile to men. Typically if she is in a group of single mothers.
9. The mother uses access to control the children (if you don’t behave then you can’t see daddy).
10. The mother can’t compete with the father who may be able to give the children more treats in the short time he sees them. The children may boost him at her expense, and typically demand more from her.
11. The children may be the only aspect of control the mother has, so uses it to boost her own esteem rather than for the interests of the children. This is the power motive more commonly seen in men.
12. The mother may still like the father and uses the children as a means of controlling him.
13. The mother may be punishing the fathers new partner indirectly as the father may know that he could see the children if it wasn’t for the new partner.
14. The mother may be independent and never wanted a man around anyway apart from fathering her children (entrapment). Or she may have gained independence during the marriage and now wants to exploit it.
15. As often quoted, the mother may see children as a way of getting a house, welfare money, and other benefits. The father was always incidental in the matter.
16. Some women actually believe that men are not interested in their children.
17. The mother assumes hostility by the father towards her is also towards the children, so ‘protects’ them by keeping him away.
18. The mother has a different lifestyle to the father, and does not want the children to copy his way of life.
19. The mother may have no family of her own (typically foreign wives), whereas the father may have a family. The mother regards the child as ‘her family’.
20. The mother may become emotionally dependent upon the child, and regard any affections the child has for the father as depriving her.
21. The mother simply regards the child as her property, and sees the father as making a claim on her ‘possessions’.
22. The mother dislikes the fathers new partner, who she sees as a rival ‘mother’, so prevents the child seeing the father.
23. The mother’s new partner is the one who is preventing contact because he wishes to be seen as the ‘daddy’.
24. She fears the children will leave her for him.
25. She wants to prove to her new partner that he is the only man in her life.
26. She may have come from a broken family, and not be able to sustain a relationship.
27. The father is a constant reminder of the failed relationship that she prefers to forget.
28. She may be starting a new involvement, or having difficulties with the existing one, and doesn’t want the children to tell the father about her affairs.


State's Mistake Denies Father Rights To His Child

Tuesday, March 25, 2008

In April 2006, Eggleston got a surprising letter from the Foster Care Review Board saying his child's mother had attempted suicide the previous summer and the child had been made a ward of the state.

"They told me that she had been in foster care with her grandmother for almost a year. Wow. I had no clue, and by that time -- well, they knew where I was to take my money, but how come no one ever notified me?" Eggleston said.

Attorney Amy Geren now represents Eggleston. She said that because the state dropped the ball, Eggleston missed out on an opportunity to gain custody of his child. He is suing the state.

"They knew exactly where to find him. They just didn't make any attempt to notify him. If the custodial mother is not able to care for that child, the first choice should be to place that child with the non-custodial parent," Geren said.

This is Nebraska's first test case for a new law that allows state officials to give more than just a "no comment" on child abuse and neglect cases. LB 782, just signed within the last couple weeks, allows Landry to release information about children who are state wards.

Read More Here


Custody statute is bad math

William Farrell is a stand-up guy who works hard to provide for his two kids.

But the Longmont resident says a revision to Colorado's child-custody statute is forcing him and thousands of others to work even harder.

The statute in question is 14-10-115. It allows children born after a divorce to be factored into child-support payments. It increases payments when the custodial parent has another child. But it can also lessen benefits for kids when the noncustodial parent has another child.

"It bothers me extremely," Farrell said. "Without using four - letter words, it's really unfair to have to support a child born years after the divorce."

Farrell has primary custody of the two daughters, ages 5 and 7, he had with his ex-wife. She gets the kids every other weekend.

Farrell said his ex-wife, who could not be reached for comment, has four kids by three fathers. Her last child was born in June.

Before the revised law took effect Jan. 1, you were only responsible for the children you brought into this world.

Not any more.

I can't believe this at all. What is Colorado thinking. oops I forgot it's all about the money. read more here


Panel: No anti-dad bias in custody verdicts

Divorced fathers are not discriminated against by social workers in decisions on child custody, according to a committee that included experts from the government, and academia.

read more here

Why am I not surprise. Every Court Judge said this.


Two Guys from BTS Video.

Monday, March 24, 2008

These two guys are from breaking the silence video. I can only hope that in their future if and when they get marry that PAS or PAA or PA does find their way into they lives. I wonder what will they say if and when they have kids and their kid's mother does this to them. What will they do if they are false accuse of abuse?
I feel that is was with PAS is the Syndrome part, I I feel Action would be more effective, that way its not a medical condition.
PAA=Parental Alienation Action, PA=Parental Alienation.


Two Anit-father Videos

breaking the silence

family court crisis


High court grants man custody of boy

Friday, March 21, 2008

Finally a court rule in favor of non-bio father to rise his ex-wife child.



A Utah man is the legal father of a boy he raised as his own, even though his wife conceived the child through an extramarital affair, the Utah Supreme Court ruled Tuesday.


As part of divorce proceedings initiated when the boy was about 16 months old, a 3rd District judge ruled that the other man was the "natural, biological, and legal father" of the child. He gave this man and the mother, who married after her divorce was finalized, joint legal custody and primary physical custody of the boy.


The ex-husband was granted "joint physical custody time," which resulted in the boy spending about half his time living with him. He appealed, saying he should be recognized as the child's father and also have legal custody.

In a 4-to-1 decision, the high court upheld a 2006 Court of Appeals ruling that held the former husband is the legal father. The Supreme Court based its ruling on an analysis it developed in a 1990 case on whether the presumption that a husband is the father of a child born to his wife during their marriage can be challenged.

Because the marriage of the mother and her husband was intact when the boy was born in 1999 and the husband - who knew the child was not his biological son - voluntarily assumed parental responsibility, "the presumption of [his] paternity cannot be challenged in this case," the Supreme Court majority said Chief Justice .


Christine Durham dissented, saying the case should not be decided by the 1990 analysis. Rather, she argued, a decision on the right to challenge the husband's paternity should be based on more recent statutory changes in family law.


"Breaking the Silence": Sorting out the facts

Monday, March 17, 2008

I just read what Cathy had to say on PBS special "Breaking the Silence". Very Interesting to say the least. Why don't you stop by her site and read it for your self. Click here to visit her blog.



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Israel Fathers Child Custody Rights Groups Intensify Demonstrations

By Joel Leyden
Israel News Agency

Ra'anana, Israel ---- March 16....(INA) - Fathers and children rights custody groups in Israel protesting gender bias discrimination in court custody cases have intensified their public demonstrations.

Last week hundreds of divorced and single fathers met in Tel Aviv to demand joint and or equal custody in a non-violent protest covered by both Israel TV and several local newspapers. The fathers are demanding that the Israel Knesset, Israel family court judges and Israel child welfare departments adopt reforms in the existing Israel Family Custodian Act of 1962 which states that all children under the age of six will automatically have custody under their mother, unless the mother is violent, drug abuser or negligent.

Fathers 4 Justice Israel hijacked all media attention at the Ra'anana annual marathon

read more here

When will the world realizes that fathers are just an important mothers are. I can only said if they truly before that fathers don't have a place in a child life, then fathers shouldn't have to pay child support or provide medical coverage for the child.


New Link Added

Thursday, March 13, 2008

I have added Daddy Blogger to my link list. A great site full with information. So why don't you stop by and check them out.

Click here to visit Daddy Blogger.




Don't leave fathers out of custody cases

DIVORCED FATHERS and their children deserve a better deal than they're getting from the courts. A shared parenting bill in the state House would create a "rebuttable presumption" - that as long as both parents are fit and it is practical, both parents are entitled to equal custody of the children. Currently, custody almost always goes solely to the mother when she objects to shared parenting.

A "rebuttable presumption" is an easy concept.

The court starts with the common sense position that it is usually in the best interest of children that they be raised equally by both parents after separation. As much as is reasonably practical, the court allows the children to spend equal time with both their mothers and fathers. It is a "rebuttable" presumption because the other parent could introduce evidence that a parent is unsuitable, or that as a practical matter it would be logistically unworkable, and that they have not done anything improper to make it unworkable.

The chief focus in child custody cases would continue to be on what is best for the child and nothing would be "automatic." A judge would still examine every individual case to make sure the child's needs are being met. In fact, "rebuttable presumptions" are nothing new in child custody cases.

Since 1999 we have had a "rebuttable presumption" that seriously violent parents should not be awarded custody of their children. None of the silly parade of horribles of judges with their hands tied automatically dispensing custody decrees without examining the facts of each individual case, resulted.

Currently, Massachusetts statutory law does not presume that there should or should not be joint physical custody. But there's a big difference between the law and reality. In courtrooms across the state, when a mother objects to joint physical custody, she essentially extinguishes the hope of the father, even when sharing custody seems eminently workable and in the children's best interest. A study by Joseph McNabb of Laboure College found that mothers obtained sole physical custody 83.2 percent of the time, fathers obtained sole custody 8.8 percent of the time, and joint custody was only awarded 8 percent of the time.

That's a devastating number for fathers who want to be meaningful parts of their children's lives. Many fathers justifiably feel as if their children have been the victims of state-sponsored kidnapping, punished for committing the unpardonable sin of being the primary breadwinner. Though opponents claim that more research is necessary, the effects of fatherlessness have been abundantly studied.

According to, fatherless homes account for 63 percent of youth suicides, 90 percent of homeless/runaway children, 85 percent of children with behavior problems, 71 percent of high school dropouts, 85 percent of youths in prison, and more than 50 percent of teen mothers. Dr. Robert Bauserman did a meta-analysis (a study of all the studies) of 33 studies between 1982 to 1999 published by the American Psychological Association. In total, 1,846 sole-custody and 814 joint-custody children were studied. He concluded that "Children in joint custody arrangements had less behavioral and emotional problems, had higher self-esteem, better family relations and school performance than children in sole custody arrangements."

Most people don't need research to convince them of the obvious overwhelming benefits of fathers. They already know. That's why shared parenting won 87 percent of the support of Massachusetts voters when it was a non-binding ballot question in 2004.

Shared parenting reduces litigation as parties do not have to continually go to court in the never-ending battle to prove that they are the better parent and deserve sole custody of the child.

Equality, mutual respect, ending conflict and endless litigation and providing children both of their parents - values not fostered by the current system - would not only benefit the parents, but it would be of incalculable value to the children. That's why we need shared parenting.

Rinaldo Del Gallo III is a family law attorney and a spokesman for Berkshire Fatherhood Coalition.


NEWS- Sex abuse: Another dad sues Social Services

According to many sexual abuse experts, mothers of young children almost never lodge false accusations of sexual abuse against the father of their children.

"Almost never" are the operative words, according to two Virginia fathers who allege that four Albemarle County Social Services social workers and a Newport News therapist joined with the mothers of their daughters in relentless and baseless persecution of them even after courtroom evidence emerged to prove their innocence.

The first father, a Nelson County man using the pseudonym John T. Nelson in court documents to protect his daughter's identity, filed a $4 million suit in December 2006, as detailed in a June 14, 2007 Hook news story ["Social dis-services? Dad sues for $4 mil over alleged molestation."]

The second suit, filed in August 2007 and which the Hook recently discovered, names the same five defendants and outlines similar allegations. That father, a Spotsylvania County man known as John Proctor in court documents, asks for $7 million to compensate him and his six-year-old daughter for the anguish of enduring "the most unspeakable and disgusting false allegations" and "wholly improper government intrusion."

Proctor's attorney, Fredericksburg-based Leila Kilgore, says she and her client learned about Nelson's case after reading the Hook's article as they prepared to file their case in federal court.

"We were stunned," says Kilgore. "There was some relief for my client that he wasn't alone. It bolstered his feeling that he had to do something."

Of note, says Kilgore, are the parallels between the cases. Both Proctor and Nelson were engaged in protracted custody battles over their preschool-aged daughters when the girls' mothers accused the men of sexual abuse, and an investigation by Albemarle County Social Services began. (While Nelson's child resides in Albemarle County, Proctor's case was assigned to Albemarle County Social Services-- illegally, Proctor's suit alleges.)

Nelson's attorney, Kirk Schroder, declines comment on the case citing a gag order, except to say, "The pleadings speak for themselves."

The mother of Nelson's daughter, called "Cathy Rio" in the suit, says she can't talk specifically about what Nelson stands accused of because of an ongoing custody battle currently being appealed. Those papers are sealed, and all involved parties are under a gag order, says Rio. But she strongly disputes the notion that the investigation and ensuing custody battle were baseless.

Though neither the Nelson nor Proctor cases contain lurid details of the alleged abuse, in both cases, after investigating, Social Services lodged a "Level one founded" disposition-- the most serious-- in the central registry of sex offenders located in Richmond. In both cases, however, those founded dispositions were overturned following review by the central office.

Also in both cases, Albemarle County's investigator, Lori Green, sent the girls 100 miles away to Newport News for a forensic interview by therapist Viola Vaughan-Eden, rather than having them interviewed by local therapists. Both Nelson and Proctor allege Vaughan-Eden's involvement in their cases was inappropriate, with Proctor calling Vaughan-Eden a "professional license for hire."

The plaintiffs both allege that Vaughan-Eden lacks the forensic training to perform such an interview, and in each case, the men allege, she failed to audiotape the girls' statements, which the suits claim is standard protocol to protect both the accused parent and the child.

According to Nelson's suit, Green allowed the mother of his daughter to furnish Vaughan-Eden with information Green knew to be "false and prejudicial." The suit alleges Green gave the mother 24-hours notice of the forensic interview, providing time, the suit alleges, for the mother to coach the child to make allegations. Proctor also alleges that Vaughan-Eden, a board member-at-large of the American Professional Society on Abuse of Children, ignored evidence of "coaching" by his daughter's mother, even after it had been noted and entered into evidence during hearings in state court.

Kathy Ralston, director of Albemarle County Social Services and a defendant in each case, referred all inquiries about the cases to county-appointed attorney Richard Milnor. Milnor, who also represents Social Service employees Lori Green, Cindy Casey, and John Freeman, did not return the Hook's repeated calls, nor did Vaughan-Eden.

Though the defense isn't talking, their counter-filings suggest they will mount a vigorous defense. In their response to the complaints, the defendants deny all allegations. Each of the social services employees has also filed motions to dismiss, citing the immunity provided by their government positions.

Claire Kaplan, director of Sexual and Domestic Violence Services at UVA, says the notion that vindictive mothers drive such accusations is unfounded. Indeed, various studies estimate the rate of false allegations is small-- ranging from 2-8 percent. The National District Attorney's Association estimates that one in five children are victims of sexual abuse, most of them at the hands of someone they know and trust.

Kaplan further says mothers who believe their children have been sexually abused have an uphill battle to fight in court, particularly because it's so difficult to prove the allegations. Defense attorneys often claim mothers are making false accusations by vilifying them as angry, hostile, hysterical. Anger, says Kaplan, doesn't prove an allegation is false.

"Wouldn't you be angry if your child was being sexually abused?" she asks.

Trial dates have not yet been set in Nelson's and Proctor's cases.


Ex-spouses may see faster enforcement of child-visitation rights

Monday, February 11, 2008

A pilot program that is speeding up the enforcement process when a divorced parent violates a court-ordered child time for an ex-spouse was given top priority status and unanimously endorsed by a legislative budget subcommittee Wednesday.

Similar legislation to HB22 was given the same status a year ago but was ultimately voted down in the House.

Those and other concerns raised last year have been addressed in the current bill, the proposal's sponsor, Rep. Julie Fisher, R-Fruit Heights, told members of the Legislature's criminal justice appropriations subcommittee.

HB22 doesn't override the section of the law dealing with steps a divorced parent must follow when an ex-spouse violates parent-time schedules remains in place. It offers a stopgap measure to the process, which has been criticized for years by fathers' rights groups who say designated and scheduled time with their children can be suddenly changed.

"And nothing happens, not in reality," a father from Boulder, Colo., told the Deseret Morning News after his Thanksgiving time with his two children in Layton was denied by his ex-wife.

"I got out of the car and she came to the driveway and said she had made other plans and wouldn't change them," he said. "The visit was scheduled, she knew I was on my way. She just turned and walked back into the house."

Possible abuse is nearly always the implied reason for a sudden refusal of a visit by a noncustodial father, advocates for the legislation in Utah said. The fact is, the only recourse is to seek court action until weeks and months after an incident.

"Besides, what good is it going to do to service a court order on someone who is violating a court order already?" he said. The state relentlessly demonizes dads who don't pay child support but hardly does a thing when a visit is canceled.

"That's a loud and clear message: money is more important than time with a parent," he said.

The state child support collections section is relentless for back child support, but they virtually never enforce missed child time because an incident is over so fast and fathers who try to make up the time rarely get it back anyway, advocates say.

That's what the bill is designed to do, Fisher said, noting that was the motivation behind the original bill passed last year.

The pilot program that has been under way in 3rd District Court involves going back to court, but a judge can call for the immediate involvement of a mediator to settle a time dispute.



Fathers have rights, too, 02-10-08

The Family Court of Fall River, like thousands of others, seems to not only sanction, but ardently promote the estrangement of child and father. Further, the mothers, along with their lawyers, manipulate the court with the outdated "every woman is a victim" syndrome and false or exaggerated accusations, and offer up the children as catalysts to punish and impoverish the father.

This is scathingly evident in the case of unwed parents. The fathers of illegitimate children are "fathers" only in the eyes of the bank! Nowhere is this more apparent than a case in California of the unwed mother placing her child up for adoption, the father of the child petitioning the court for custody of his child, and the "wisdom" of the court denying his petition. This particular case is now pending in the Supreme Court. For most, the expense of such a pursuit of justice is completely prohibitive.

Signing an acknowledgement of paternity provides no parental rights to the father. The child, with the blessings of the court, becomes no more than a commodity for the unwed mother. Affording her the lifelong "right" and ability to abuse and harrass the system, the courts and the father of the child without repercussion or accountability. The family courts are overflowing daily with charges that are ludicrous, unfounded and out-and-out lies. Fathers by the droves are brought to task by vindictive, self-serving, deceitful mothers, many of whom practice irresponsible breeding as a means of income.

Yes, there are "dead beat" dads. Many simply choose to ignore their parental responsibilities. But, the majority are "created" by our (in)justice system.

Judgements in Family Court are hawked as in the best interest of the child, when, in fact, they are in the best interest of the court. The family lawyers are much like morticians, preying upon clients at a most vulnerable moment, a time when rationale is set aside. After all, what father is not willing to sacrifice all for his child? Ergo, thousands upon thousands of dollars are mindlessly placed in the hands of attorneys, who, with minimal exception, concern themselves with plans for their next boat purchase and wouldn’t know the best interest of the child if they fell over it.

What about the guardians ad litem? Case in point. After meeting with a "father" who provided extensive legal documentation regarding his child being subjected to frequent visits by an ex-con pedophile and a known heroin addict, the GAL met with the (un-wed) mother. She admitted that both were a part of the small child’s life on a regular basis, and that, "if it matters, I won’t let him go around them anymore." If?

The final recommendation of the GAL was the child should continue to live with the mother, even though there was concern about his safety and well-being (paraphrased). Guardians ad litem have no particular qualifications, if any, and yet the court utilizes and respects their recommendations. Again, where does the "best interest of the child" come into play? Perhaps in the next battle in the court? I doubt it!

Being a father, wed or unwed, is not a crime, except in the Family Court system. Being an unwed mother has lost its stigma, and rightfully so. It happens. If there is a "crime" involved, it is that the Family Court system violates rather than endorses the "best interests of the children."

Until we correct this mockery of jurisprudence, hundreds of thousands of fathers will continue to be estranged or incarcerated, hundreds of thousands of the vindictive mothers will continue to view their children as cash registers and hundreds of thousands of children will fall to abuse and neglect, or worse.

For the many mothers and fathers who work toward the "best interest of the child," blessed be. For the rest of you, bless the children; they deserve better. I hope you get what you deserve!


What about Fathers Rights,

Tuesday, January 15, 2008

If I was 14 weeks' pregnant, I could have an abortion. I could simply decide on my own that another child would complicate my life in unacceptable ways. Too expensive, too inconvenient, not the right time - whatever the cause - I could make a call, schedule an abortion and be rid of my problem.

I could do this because I'm a woman, the potential mother-to-be. Fathers, however, do not share the same rights. Just ask Manishkumar Patel.

Patel, 34, of Appleton was charged in November with attempted first-degree intentional homicide of an unborn child and eight other counts for allegedly slipping the abortion drug RU-486 into his pregnant girlfriend's drink. She later miscarried - her second miscarriage in less than a year. (A warrant has been issued for Patel's arrest after he failed to check in with Outagamie County sheriff's authorities last week.)

Patel's actions, if proved, were wrong. No one ever should surreptitiously give a drug to another. But why can a father be charged with attempted homicide when a mother can choose legally to take the exact same drug with the exact same effect.

The legal answer is because Wisconsin is one of 37 states to have a fetal homicide law. In Wisconsin, it is a felony to intentionally destroy the life of an unborn quick child. Under the law, feticide is a Class E felony, carrying a penalty of up to 15 years in prison and fines up to $50,000.

Yet under Roe vs. Wade, women are free to destroy their unborn child at almost any time. Is this fair? Is this right?

Even if you agree with the legality of abortion - which I do - how do you reconcile the fact that mothers-to-be are allowed to stop a pregnancy from progressing to birth while fathers are not? Does the fetus not share the DNA of both mother and father?

Fathers, I think, get short shrift. Because a mother carries the child, she has all the power. She can decide to keep the child or not. The father has no say, although the decision has lifelong implications for both of them. Should the mother decide to keep the child despite the father's wishes, he will be forced to provide financial support for 18 years, whether or not it is convenient to do so. Should she decide to abort a child that he would rather keep, he has no recourse - only empty arms and an empty heart.

It appears Patel had no intention of loving or caring for his unborn child. He was married to another woman. If he and his girlfriend had talked about it, perhaps they could have prevented the unplanned pregnancy, much less two of them. Instead, Patel allegedly took matters into his own hands.

His case deserves our attention. Patel's alleged actions may have been reprehensible, but fathers are parents, too. Let's hope this case draws attention to the rights of fathers everywhere.

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